TALK THROUGH ITSupporting Mental Health for adults, children & teenagers
Newbury and surrounding areas

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Solution-Focused Counselling for Adults, Teenagers and Children

Based in Newbury, West Berkshire and also remote over Skype or Zoom.

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Welcome to Talk Through It. My name is Gerry Spatharis and I am a Solution-focused therapist. I aim to help adults, teenagers and children find their way out of difficult times in their life and give them the skills to work through issues for themselves in order to reach a more secure future. I build on strengths and possibilities rather than dwelling on the problem. I am Newbury-based but also available online nationally and internationally.

Over the last decade there has been a considerable increase in anxiety especially since social media, the pandemic and post-covid. There are many more issues surfacing than ever before, for adults and for teenagers and young children. This is why I set up Talk Through It.

Although counselling is a useful way to sift through problems to someone independent of those you love, Solution-focused therapy is something even better! I love using this approach because it is all about what life could be like if we make small changes. It is about possibility and strength and about re-connecting with yourself. I find it really effective and I am hoping that you will see this too.

Sometimes it is hard to see a way forward but by talking through issues and noticing what works, the solution-focused approach can help change the negative cycle and steer you towards a more positive goal. It is a pro-active approach, where you are the centre of change. It is even effective for those who still appear to be stuck in a rut and unable to move forward. Everyone has the power to change something, no matter how small.

It is suitable for adults,teenagers and children but if you don't feel that the Solution-focused approach is right for you, it's not a problem. I have over 20 years of experience in this area and if I can't help, I will usually know someone who can!

The Sessions

For 'in-person' sessions, I am based at The Fairbourne Clinic in Newbury, West Berkshire.

Session Time
Sessions for Adults and children over ten: 45 minutes long, with the exception of the first session, which is around 60 mins as this is an information-gathering session. Parents are welcome to sit in on sessions with children.

For younger children (10 and under)
Sessions are 30 mins long at £35. I use drawing and talking, counselling techniques and solution-focused practice. Parents accompany their children if younger than 8. Parents always have the option to stay in the sessions.

How many sessions will I need?

Emotional difficulties can be wide-ranging and long-standing, affecting self-esteem, friendships and relationships, and therefore it is very difficult to estimate exactly how many therapy sessions a person will need in order to feel as if they are reaching a point where they no longer need someone to talk to. Some find that several session are enough for them to move on, others find that more are needed. You move on when you feel you need to. It is up to the individual and can be as many as you feel are helpful to you and your needs.

What happens in the sessions?

Solution-focused therapy is a little like CBT (Cognitive Based Therapy) but often doesn't come with homework and it doesn't focus on the behaviour in detail. It is also different from counselling, in that although we listen to the problem, we work towards future reflection and goals. The sessions start with where you want to see yourself, rather than where you are currently at. You get to talk about how you would like things to be and we work out ways in which you can reach those (realistic) goals. If you want to discuss things from the past that have lead you to speaking to someone then you are welcome. Just because we don't dwell on the problem doesn't mean we don't talk about it. Each session moves slowly forward from the last so that you get closer to where you want to be.

Adults: I've been to counselling before and it hasn't worked. What makes you think this is any different?

It's different because solution-focused therapy is about asking you to focus on where you would like to see yourself and how you might get there, rather than how you feel about things as they stand and asking you to talk constantly about the problem. If you don't think it's for you after one session, you don't have to come again. The relationship between the client and the therapist is key.

I'm a parent, can I have sessions too?

Parents often ask if they can have sessions to help their child or teenager. If you are feeling frustrated and unable to see how or where to help your child or teenager, then book an appointment for a session. You might also feel as if you want to talk about how you feel rather than discuss them! Booking a 1:1 means that we can talk through any issues or thoughts you may have.

What if I want Cognitive Behavioural Therapy?

I use the Solution-focused approach as my preferred therapy but am also trained in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy if you feel that this is something you would like to try.

Online Sessions.

Although I am a Newbury, West Berkshire-based Solution-focused Practitioner I am available for bookings over Skype or Zoom. This means that you don't have to travel to talk. Please go to the: Remote, Locations and Prices tab to book an online session.

Those who are concerned that sessions over the internet might not work as well as face-to-face ones, need not be. They are just as good and especially if you prefer to be in the comfort of your own home, without travelling to Newbury!

Sample of adult issues:

As an adult, you may be..

  • experiencing disillusionment in a career
  • unable to see your way out of an issue
  • struggling with family life
  • struggling with self-doubt
  • not able to see what you want out of life
  • becoming angry at seemingly small things
  • feeling lost and hopeless

    This is just a small example of issues you may be experiencing.

  • Children and Teenagers:

    Typical issues occurring in children/teenagers:

  • extreme reactions to minor incidents.
  • exhibiting uncontrollable bursts of anger
  • panicking and finding it difficult to cope.
  • finding family-life emotionally charged
  • anxiety over parent separation
  • excessive anger in relationships with siblings

  • continually going over the same thoughts or problems
  • becoming insular and inward-thinking
  • feeling low and lacking self-confidence
  • having problems relating to people
  • unable to make friends

  • struggling with school work, expectations or peers
  • being disruptive in lessons
  • anger and frustration in school
  • inability to focus when in class/at work
  • anxiety about school or work
  • worrying about judgement from others
  • struggling to get into school each day
  • concern about gender issues

    I also have a lot of experience working with children who have Autism and for those who are interested, please see the Further Reading section for books that might be of interest.

  • Not Sure?

    Please feel free to email or phone if you have any questions. Making an enquiry doesn't commit you to a meeting, but it might just give you peace of mind and you can take it further if you wish.

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